Quotes about Feelings

At one seminar where I was speaking on the concept of proactivity, a man came up and said, "Stephen, I like what you're saying. But every situation is so different. Look at my marriage. I'm really worried. My wife and I just don't have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don't love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can I do?" "The feeling isn't there anymore?" I asked.

Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not our conditions. We can subordinate feelings to values.

Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a good reason to love her." "But how do you love when you don't love?" "My friend, love is a verb. Love—the feeling—is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?

REACTIVE LANGUAGE PROACTIVE LANGUAGE There's nothing I can do. Let's look at our alternatives. That's just the way I am. I can choose a different approach. He makes me so mad. I control my own feelings. They won't allow that. I can create an effective presentation.

Happy the heart where love has come to birth.

Love turns, with a little indulgence, to indifference or disgust; hatred alone is immortal.

Love is more than an emotion, it is a decision.

What we love usually manages to get into our conversation. What is down in the well of the heart will come up in the bucket of the speech.

The essence of how God thinks and feels is wholehearted love.

There is always something ridiculous about the emotions of people whom one has ceased to love.

Being in love doesn't mean loving.

Some people love so hard that they can't control those emotions when they're at their deepest point.