Quotes about Expectations

If you put too many things in your need category, you will end up frustrated with life, hurt by others, and doubting God's goodness.

When my hope is in my ability to rule the day, my spouse becomes a constant threat rather than an intimate companion.

So much of our disappointment in relationships is not because we have an unrealistic view of others, but because we have a distorted view of ourselves.

Whatever sits on the other side of your "if-only" is where you are looking for life, peace, joy, hope,

I still lack humility. I still tend to make life about my plan, my feelings, my desires, and my expectations. I am still tempted to assess the "good" of a day by whether it pleased me versus whether I pleased God and was loving toward others. I still am tempted to live as if I own my life and still fail to remember that I was bought with a price.

When you think you're righteous, you expect others to be righteous as well, so you become demanding, judgmental, and constantly disappointed.

Parenting is about the condition that makes good behavior seem such a hard and elusive goal.

Our agenda, our definition of what a good God should give us, is a life that is comfortable, pleasurable, and predictable; one in which there's lots of human affirmation and an absence of suffering. But consider God's agenda,

Sweating bullets to line up the Bible with our exhausting expectations, to make the Bible something it's not meant to be, isn't a pious act of faith, even if it looks that way on the surface. It's actually thinly masked fear of losing control and certainty, a mirror of an inner disquiet, a warning signal that deep down we do not really trust God at all.

As Luke's story unfolds, Jesus continues to undermine expectations involving political power and Jewish identity. In his first public appearance, in a synagogue service, he claims to be the messiah, which creates quite a buzz of support—until he tells them that he will bless Gentiles and be rejected by his own kinsmen. The crowd responds by trying to throw Jesus off a cliff. Israel's messiah isn't supposed to say things like this.

We have practically been conditioned to expect God to be our helicopter parent. And if for some reason we don't run to God to solve every little problem, from finding our car keys to deciding on color schemes for the nursery, we are told there is something deeply wrong with us spiritually. Phooey.

Reading the book of Proverbs on child rearing is like paying good money for financial advice and being told after ten sessions, "Here's what I've come up with. Invest your money wisely, and you will be set for retirement." I was hoping for stock tips.